"Lestat" 1998 Chapter 14

Lets Review: Lestat's Litany of Lies (and other acts of deceit, dishonesty, and dirty tricks)

As you know by now, my temperamental Lestat was a pathological liar, master manipulator, and down-right devious devil. Honestly I don't think he could help himself, but I will get to that issue in another post. Before posting the last e-mail I would ever write to him, I want to review his deeds, that should never be forgotten, because within his deeds, lay lessons for me, (and anyone else who has been with someone like Lestat) to forever remember.

1. Religion: He convinced me we shared important spiritual beliefs (as part of his plan to seduce me). In fact, we did NOT share the same belief system. To explain this, let's pretend I am Jewish, so that I may illustrate what Lestat did. When we first met on-line, he told me he was "Jewish" and that he visited important "Jewish" sites in the US and abroad. However, after talking with Lena and Amber, I discovered he was in fact NOT "Jewish" - he went to great lengths (like attending "Jewish" seminars with me!) to convince me of his spiritual faith. So, why would someone lie about their religion? He was crafting the "perfect" man for me to ensure that I would fall for him.

2. Piercings: When we first talked, he told me he had a nipple and belly button piercing. However, in one of the first pictures he sent me, there were NO piercings. He told me he had them for quite some time, however. When I met him in person, he DID have his left nipple pierced, and it was red and swollen, as if the procedure had just been done. He assured me it was "just infected," but had it for a while. No belly-button piercing though - he explained he took it out a long time ago and it healed up. I saw no evidence of a piercing in that region whatsoever. When I finally talked to Amber, who of course knew him for at least 6 months before me said he never had the piercing in his nipple until he met me the first time in June 1999. She remembered when he came home from a "business trip" and showed her his new piercing. She thought it was strange he did that and he told her it was just a "last minute" whim. So why would he go to such lengths as to tell me he had a piercing (when he didn't) and then GET the piercing right before we met? He obviously thought I would be more attracted to him - I told him I liked piercings, but I certainly didn't say it was a deal-breaker, if he didn't have one! Again, he was crafting the "perfect" man for me.

3. Musicianship: He told me he played the piano and sang. He had a baby grand piano in his apartment. No matter how many times I asked him to play for me, he didn't. He always refused, always had an excuse. He never sang for me either. Again, why lie about this? He knew I respected and was attracted to such talents in men.

4. Poetry: He wrote me numerous poems that he claimed were his own that he plagiarized from other authors and song-writers. He often used country songs because he knew I didn't listen to country music.

5. Womanizing: He had ongoing relationships with several other women. To most, if not all of them, he promised ever-lasting love and marriage. I am sure there were more, but the ones I knew about included: Lena, Amber, Jaime, Melissa, Elka, Olga, Donella, Lindsey and Jennifer. Many of us lived in different parts of the United States. He was having sex with all of us - unprotected. Amazingly, I never got an STD, but for a while I had chronic yeast infections. Yuck, I know. When the truth finally came out, I knew I was getting chronic infections because he was passing other women's bacteria on to me! Yuck yuck yuck! He insisted I be on the Pill. He probably said the same to the others.

6. Jewelry: He gave me an engagement ring that he also promised to Lena, and eventually gave to Amber. The replacement ring he gave me, I am sure was a fake. It was too big to be real. After giving me the first ring, he told me he took it back and replaced it with a the "bigger" ring. However, several months later, I found the original ring in the glovebox of his car. He told me I misunderstood about him already replacing the ring.

7. Trips and travels: He promised trips to Jamaica, Japan and Florida. He was not wistful either in his promises - he convinced me he had every intention to take me. For example, we were to go to Japan for Christmas to visit his sister. However the trip never took place because of his various excuses. I am sure he never intended on taking me to any of these places. He just made the promises to give me a certain impression of him.

8. Relocation: His move to my town was completely fabricated. When we first met he told me, "oh yeah, by the way, I have a job waiting for me where you happen to live." He even told me the name of the person and company that hired him. When his plans to move kept getting delayed, I did some digging to find the company, which DID NOT exist! He had excuse after excuse as to why he couldn't move - each time it had to do with "moving money" that the fabricated company had not yet sent him. Clearly, telling me he was moving was yet another way to keep me on his leash.

9. Pets: He made up owning a dog. There was no dog, ever. This was confirmed by Amber. Why would he lie about having a dog? Seems inconsequential to our relationship, but then again, there were so many things he did that didn't make sense, I stopped trying to figure it out.

10. Sleeping arrangements: He told me I was the only woman he ever allowed to sleep in his bed because I was special. Clearly a lie. And why lie about this? I didn't care who had slept in his bed previously! When I asked him about his prior girlfriends, and where they slept, he told me "the guest room", but his "guest room" was his office and there was no bed in there.

11. A "secret" agent: Amber told me an interesting story: when they first met, Lestat spoke with an English accent. This went on for several weeks and she was fully convinced he was from the UK. One night, they were at a restaurant and he began talking in his regular southern drawl. She was surprised and he told her, "Well, you see, I work for the government, doing top secret business. In order to protect you, I was altering my identify." Actually, he probably should have been a secret agent - he clearly had all the tricks of the trade.

12. More jewelry: At Christmas time, Lestat gave me a beautiful Cartier watch--silver with sapphire dials. He was so proud of himself and made sure to tell me what a great watch it was and that it was "real." He went on-and-on about it, which I thought a little odd. Strangely though, he did not wrap the watch in its original package. No warranty information was included. Also, the watch band was too big, so he took it upon himself to adjust it. But he kept messing it up and the band kept braking. We would argue about this because I didn't want Cartier to refuse to fix it because someone else invalidated the warranty by attempting to repair it themselves! After we broke up, I took the watch straight to the Cartier store - they took one look at it and said, "This isn't a real Cartier, ma'am. I'm sorry." They proceeded to point out several features on the watch indicating it was a fake.

13. Lost gifts: Also at Christmas time, he gave me a couple of gifts, that he took back and promised he would return to me shortly. One of them was an electronic keyboard. He took it back because I couldn't take it on the plane with me. He said he would ship it to me. He never did. He also gave me a gift certificate for a spa treatment in his area, which I couldn't' use because it was the holiday season and they were closed. He promised to take me next time I came to town. He never did.

14. On-line predatory behavior: He was pursing on-line dating the entire time we were together. I caught him in the act several times throughout the year and found his active profiles on line. He denied it each time.

15. Accusations: He accused me of cheating constantly and would pick fights with me about this subject.

16. Seizures: He staged gran mal seizures when we would argue. He told me early on in the relationship he had a "seizure disorder" left over from Gulf War Syndrome. However, Amber new nothing of such a seizure disorder, and she knew him best, as she was in his very town and saw him often.

17. Unplanned business travel: He went on several last minute business trips throughout the year I knew him. Lena and Amber also said the same thing. We discovered the timing of such trips coincided with trips he took to see his various women in different parts of the country. We could never figure out how he could take so much time off from work!

18. A new car: He told me he won a car from a contest. He lied about this as well - there was never a new car. Of course he had excuses as to why he never got the car.

19. Psychic abilities: He claimed to be psychic and telekinetic and accused me of having dreams about other men, that he could "see" when I was asleep.

20. Threats: He told me he got rid of the "intimate" pictures of me, then later threatened to use them against me.

21. Unpaid debts: He promised to pay for expenses I incurred from the long-distance relationship, (because it was NOT supposed to be long-distance). He promised, but never followed through. He had excuse after excuse, but kept promising.

22. Missed flights: He missed several trips to see me because he either "missed the flight" or "had to work." He never intended to come on those trips. I called the airlines to confirm his supposed reservations. He had nothing reserved in his name! He never missed a flight because he never made one. There were times when he was scheduled to arrive at a certain hour and I would get a call a few minutes BEFORE his arrival telling me he didn't make it on the flight. Infuriating.

23. Verbal abuse: On top of all his lies and devious acts, he was jealous, petulant, inconsolable, and incredibly controlling. If I didn't pay enough attention to him, he would throw a MAJOR tantrum and verbally abuse me until I had no self-esteem to speak of.

24. Racism: One time, while out shopping for the replacement ring early in our relationship, he asked me if I had ever dated anyone of "color." In fact, I had, and told him so. I had no idea this would be an issue. He became instantly angry and said, "how could you!" He told me never to tell his family because this was unacceptable. He honestly couldn't believe why I would "do such a thing" as to date someone who was not White.

25. Jealous behavior: He would make controlling comments about how I dressed. If I wore a short skirt he would say, "why don't you go put some clothes on," angry and accusatory, as if I were trying to attract attention from other men.

26. Evidence: He would leave evidence of his other girlfriends around his apartment for me to find: letters, cards, pictures, etc. In his bathroom he left a journal that had written on the inside cover, "Lestat, meeting you on the plane was kismit. Blah blah blah. I look forward to where this will lead. Love, Lindsey." Of course I would confront him every time. Of course he would turn it around and blame me in some way, making me feel like the bad girlfriend for questioning him.

I think that just about does it to summarize his sick and twisted behavior. I am sure if I thought longer and harder, I could come up with a few more examples. If so, I will post those at another time.

Now its time for the last email I would ever write to him.