An Offer of Sex

Well well well. An offer of sex, eh??

I should never take for granted that any man I know ultimately wants to have sex. Married or no. Sometimes I find a friend who is a guy and glad, so glad, it is platonic. But then eventually, the subject of sex comes up.

I made a friend recently at one of the places I work. He is in his 50's, looks like a hippie and not my type at all. He is also married. He is super fun and smart and interesting. A perfect platonic friend, right?

I met his wife to be sure there wouldn't be weirdness if he and I hung out. They have been married for a lot of years and she is super cool as well. I like them both. They are definitely people you want on your side, in life. They are loving, helpful, and genuinely good people.

I will call him the Platonic Friend. So recently I moved to a new apartment (yay!) and PF offered to help me complete the move, which I greatly appreciated.

And the end of the evening he said, "You know if you ever want to have sex, it's okay with my wife. I could teach you to be multiorgasmic."

Fuckin' hell.

I respectfully declined and told him I don't have sex with my friends (which is mostly true). Plus he is married. Like I want to involve myself with a married man after The Adulterer.

A couple days later we hung out to listen to the weekly music fest in dowtown PoDunk and he asked, "Are we okay?"

"Why, because you offered to give me sex?" I laughed.

I said I was fine, which is true. I thought it was weird he would offer, which I also told him, but because I am open about sex and sexuality, I wasn't offended. I told him, "Most guys I know are going to want to have sex with me."

So I wasn't creeped out.

Then I said, "So you are just going to have to tell me about the multiorgasm stuff so I can practice with someone else."

He proceeded to tell me.

Boys and girls, this man knows what he is doing. He described several different techniques that no man I have been with has even tried. Granted, it made me curious what it would be like to have sex with him, and if I could actually have multiples, but I am not attracted to him at all. My curiosity stops right there.

He has the right attitude: a desire to please his partner and an ultimate joy in exploring the female body. We both laughed and were disgusted by men who are selfish and don't make an effort.

I want to reach my sexual potential, but this requires a willing partner (who I am attracted to at least) to go there with me. I can't imagine being married and being with someone who doesn't want to have sex with me, or isn't interested in pleasing me.

I have heard and seen too many horror stories along these lines. No thanks.

So I might learn a thing or two from the Platonic Friend, and I will gladly pass on the knowledge!